So there were a lot of reasons, but mostly it was my kids being off school for two weeks and the aforementioned big ugly reason I haven't blogged much. (My kids are not related to my anxiety, but both things affect how much time I have to get creative work done).
"Okay, so... what'd you get out of it?"
Right, well first you need to understand how Twitter and Facebook factor into my normal life.
On a good day, the first thing I do is get through all the e-mails the US sent me while I was sleeping. Then I sift through Twitter/FB (and any associated articles) while I'm eating breakfast. It's my newspaper. I have a couple of lists of people for whom I try to read everything I missed, and for the rest I just read whatever Twitter and Facebook deem important for me to read. I usually do this again at lunch and then at night when I need to decompress.
On a bad day, I will additionally be checking them constantly -- every time Unity compiles, every time Torment loads a new scene, every time I come back from the bathroom, every time I get a glass of water or someone asks me a question or a cat mews outside. Hell, I checked Twitter three times just now while I was writing that sentence.
Lately, I noticed I was having more bad days, hence the social media vacation.
So what happened these two weeks? A list:
- The first 2-3 days were hard as hell. I felt disconnected from everything and everyone. When Unity was compiling, I had to sit there and watch like a chump.
- I found myself checking fivethirtyeight.com and Izanami's Amazon ranking about ten times more often than their updates can possibly justify.
- I gathered news from primary news sources. It was super weird.
- I had way more time for Torment, my kids, and Shadowrun Hong Kong.
- I watched the third debate without commentary and it didn't make me mad even a little (exasperated isn't the same as mad, right?).
- I remembered how to solve Rubik's cube.
- I didn't get depressed even once.
Let me say that last one again: I DIDN'T GET DEPRESSED EVEN ONCE.
When it came time to get back on, I was actually afraid. Did I want to go back to the monster that sapped 2-3 hours of my day and an immeasurable quantity of my joy?
Well, yes I did. Because among other things, that's how I connect with the world and that's how people connect with me. (The second day of my break, my mom IMed me to say my posts helped her get out of bed in the morning and now she didn't have a reason. I love my mommy.)
But I didn't want to do it the way I had been doing it, so I decided to change a few things.
This is the most important lesson I learned from my social media break. You're not gonna like it. https://t.co/gRy2ISJQly— Adam Heine (@adamheine) November 1, 2016
Limiting the time is easy (for certain values of easy). For one thing, I don't need to read every single damn post that went up since the last time I checked. If I'm afraid of missing something? Hey, look: actual news! For another, I really really really really need to stop checking every time I'm in mid-thought.
Yeah okay, that part's not actually easy. But you know what they say.
How to limit anxiety? I spent a lot of time thinking about that (because I had time, you see). Turns out social media can cause depression (shocker), but why? Well, for me it was mostly all the outrage. There are a lot of legitimate things to be outraged about, but when you're scrolling The Endless Browser of Outrage, it kinda bores into your skull. I mean, that's why you're not supposed to read the comments.
I needed to remember that the world is not outrage. It's mostly pretty mundane -- or even happy -- especially the part of the world that has any effect at all on my life.
So for now, I'm trying to pay closer attention to my emotions as I read. Am I getting upset? Bored? Depressed? Maybe it's time to stop scrolling.
Will I stick with it? God, I hope so. Maybe you can help keep me accountable on that.
I don't know how or whether this applies to anyone else. But having done so I would definitely recommend a break from social media from time to time. And if you do take a long break (like a few days or more), before you turn it on again stop and think about how you want to consume it.
So what's your deal with social media? How do you handle the terrible signal-to-outrage ratio?